"Each of us is constituted … by virtue of the social vulnerability of our bodies - as a site of desire and physical vulnerability … at once assertive and exposed. … If I lose you, then I not only mourn the loss, but I become inscrutable to myself. … One does not always stay intact. … To be ec-static means, literally, to be outside oneself. … Let's face it. We're undone by each other. And if we're not, we're missing something."

Judith Butler, Precarious Life